What To Do If You Live With Flatmates You Don’t Get On With

Moving into student accommodation is an experience, to say the least. One moment you're soaking in the excitement of freedom, and the next, you're trying to figure out how to coexist with complete strangers. Truth be told, sometimes you and your flatmates might not gel from the get-go.

Remember, uni isn’t just about hitting the books and making the grade. It's also about late-night snack runs, group study sessions, and yes, navigating those occasional flatmate disagreements. These same flatmates can become your study buddies or weekend hangout pals. If things aren't picture-perfect now, don't stress. Flatmate disagreements or conflicts aren’t uncommon at all, studies even show that on average 47% of people have experienced the occasional issue with their housemates. But don’t worry, because there are plenty of ways to smooth out the bumps and make your new living situation feel more like home.

Here's our handy guide to help you steer through the situation with ease and confidence.

Feeling out of place or considering a room swap already? Just wait a second. Remember, if it’s your first time living with other people, then chances are it might be your flatmate's first time too. 

The start can be a bit awkward and shakey, but that's okay and to be expected. Friendships, especially ones that begin due to new living arrangements, don't always click from the get-go.  

Before you decide to escape into your shell, try a simple 'how was your day?' or chat about the latest lecture. Although small talk gets a bad rap, it can very well lead you to learning things about each other and then flourish into meaningful conversation. With as little as four minutes of small talk, you can a great first impression, which can really help when it comes to learning how to approach them in the future. 

Taking those little steps to speak to each other can make all the difference when it comes to turning strangers into friends.

While it would be amazing to click instantly, genuine connections often need a moment to grow. So, if the early days feel a bit stiff or there's a hiccup or two, don't be disheartened – studies even show that friendships can take up to 60-100 hours to form! As everyone settles in, learns routines, and starts discovering common interests, the atmosphere will usually warm up. 

Have you tried to initiate a group dinner or just hang out in shared spaces? Building connections takes a little time and patience. With a bit of effort from all sides, you'll soon find common ground.

Ever noticed how a tiny snowball can turn into a massive avalanche if it keeps rolling? That's what happens with unchecked conflicts – within the flat or not. 

Those little annoyances or overlooked disagreements can turn into dramas of epic proportions if left unaddressed. If the overflowing bin or the unending late-night parties bother you, it's best to talk about it early on. But remember, it's not just about airing grievances—it's about finding common ground. Communication is key so keep the chat cool, constructive, and understanding. By tackling issues when they’re still small, you're setting the stage for a drama-free flat life. After all, home should feel like a haven, not a battleground.

If you're struggling to get along with your flatmates, creating flat rules can help. Maybe it's about who claims the top fridge shelf or setting a 'no dirty dishes overnight' rule. Or perhaps it's about designating quiet hours for those intensive study nights. 
The most important thing to do is make it a group discussion. When everyone chips in, it not only balances the scales but also creates a sense of community. 

Sometimes, stepping outside and getting a fresh pair of eyes on the situation can be a game-changer. Enter your personal tutor or your university’s student union. Chances are they’ve seen it all before – from dramatic feuds to shared kitchen disasters. Tapping into their experiences can provide you with guidance, support on mental health, or even insights into the formal channels you can explore when things really can’t be fixed. 

Before you pull your hair out, remember there's a wealth of wisdom just a chat away!

Whenever things get a bit too heated or the walls feel a tad too close, university societies are a great way to escape the occasional tensions of flat life. It's not just about distraction; it's about immersion in something you love, surrounded by people who share also that passion.

Whether you're lacing up for a sports society, penning your thoughts in a writing club, or jamming to the beats of K-pop, there's a society waiting for you. These clubs provide the perfect backdrop to make new friends, step out of your flat, and, most importantly, refresh your mind. 

When it feels like you've tried everything, and things aren’t working, it might be time for a change. Maybe you're craving some solitude or a space that's just yours, where you can unwind without interruptions. University studio rooms could be your answer. Tailored for students who value privacy, these rooms strike the perfect balance between community and personal space. Think of it as your personal sanctuary, where peace and privacy are the norm. 

The most important thing to remember is that the essence of university is growth in every dimension – from studies to relationships. Even if you don't become fast friends with every flatmate, focus on creating a space where you're comfortable, and remember to prioritise your mental well-being. 

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